A Netflix drama series named 13 Reasons Why has a storyline focussed on a teenager’s death by suicide. Through a series of tapes the teen has left, she describes how events and people led her to take her own life. The series has divided opinion among our New Zealand public, including our Maori and Pasifika communities. Some think it’s great that it has opened up a public conversation about suicide and show the harsh realities of suicide from a teen’s perspective. Others say that the detailed graphic scenes of rape and suicide are unacceptable, and may leave young people feeling vulnerable and even unsafe. Our perspective is that when publicly portraying suicide (fact or fiction), we must at least do no harm to people.
Le Va was asked our opinion by media, so we’ve listed our 13 reasons why we must ‘at least do no harm’ when dealing with the issue of suicide.
Watch the Tagata Pasifika news-clip here to view a 30 second summary of what we think, and also read the detailed information below.
- Reason 1: It does not follow evidence informed guidelines.
- Reason 2: Graphic scenes can trigger our most vulnerable
- Reason 3: Vulnerable young people themselves or their families are already reporting that it’s unsafe.
- Reason 4. It portrays suicide as a solution – and we know it’s not.
- Reason 5: It does not portray how to talk about suicide safely.
- Reason 6: It sensationalises suicide.
- Reason 7: It portrays professionals as unhelpful.
- Reason 8: To some it trivialises suicide.
- Reason 9: It can make survivors of suicide loss feel even more guilt.
- Reason 10: The NZ Classification Officer recently classified it as RP18.
- Reason 11: Netflix and the producers do not provide any educational support for viewers.
- Reason 12: Overall it sends a message of hopelessness for vulnerable people.
- Reason 13. In New Zealand, professionals agree with us.
We know from hard evidence and international recommendations that detailed descriptions and fictional portrayals of suicide and methods, are associated with increased distress and an increased risk of suicide for vulnerable people. The graphic scenes in 13 Reasons Why do not follow these recommendations.
People’s reactions to the series will vary widely and depend on their personal life experiences, particularly if they have been impacted by suicide in the past.
For many rangatahi (and adults) 13 Reasons Why may resonate for them and encourage good conversations, and even motivate people to treat others better. The young people that experience this reaction are most likely in the right frame of mind to watch it, are resilient, and have similar peers or supportive adults to discuss the issues with.
But for a small percentage of the population, they will not be in the right frame of mind, may have pre-existing vulnerabilities to the issues depicted, may be isolated with no support, disconnected, struggling, and not realise that viewing the series may trigger their vulnerabilities and leave them distressed and even more vulnerable.
If you, your child, friend or family member is going through a difficult time, feeling low or have been impacted by suicide, we recommend considering the potential impact it will have on your wellbeing first. If there’s any negative outcomes you can think of, don’t watch it. If you need a little help weighing up the pro’s and con’s, try our problem solving tool, and talk to Aunty Dee.
There are already reports in the USA and Australia of cases of young people binge watching the series, and their vulnerabilities have been triggered, sadly with potential links to tragic outcomes.
Vulnerable teenagers may self-identify with the main character’s experiences of bullying, sexual violence, relationships problems or depression and see suicidal behaviour as the only answer. But we know there are many ways to cope when we are distressed or have suicidal thoughts (see below for more info), and acting on those thoughts is not one of them. If you or a friend or young one needs a little help weighing up the pro’s and con’s, try our problem solving tool, and talk to Aunty Dee.
It’s ok to talk about suicide in a safe way – it will not make anyone more suicidal. However, 13 Reasons Why has missed the opportunity to describe how young people and their parents can talk about suicide in a safe way. You can watch our 4 minute ‘BRAVE’ video to hear from young people what they want parents and adults to know about feeling unsafe.
There are also many other sources of help that 13 Reasons Why failed to address – as outlined in the international recommendations, such as ensuring free help line information is available to the viewers, or recommending talking to trusted friends or family, and if you’re a young person, finding an adult to talk to.
The series can also romanticise, glamourize and sensationalise suicide which is the wrong messaging for vulnerable people. It’s a fictional drama and drama’s are aimed at eliciting emotional responses. Suicide is a sad tragedy and should be viewed that way. Once a person is dead, they do not get to make a movie or talk to people anymore.
The portrayal of a school guidance counsellor as unhelpful is not typical of most counsellors. We know they are professionals and a trustworthy source to go to for help. We want our young ones to have confidence and trust in the ones they reach out to for help. This inaccurate portrayal only increases stigma and strengthens the barriers to help seeking for young people.
The question of “Why?” is one of the most difficult aspects of suicide to reconcile – just ask any parent that has lost a child (or any survivor of losing a loved one). “Why did they take their life?”, “What could I have done different?”, “Why didn’t they ask for help?”.
The causes of suicide are extremely complex and for some, psychological pain may have no obvious ‘reason’ at all, whilst for others there may be extreme complexities. Why someone would contemplate suicide rarely has clear linear reasons as depicted in the series, which some would say trivialises and over-simplifies the issue of suicide.
For people that have lost loved ones to suicide, the question of “What if” may haunt them for life. Because 13 Reasons Why has a focus on blaming others for suicide, it may conjure up feelings of overwhelming guilt that can trigger a downwards spiral for some. The important thing to remember is that suicide is never the fault of survivors of suicide loss. If your being affected by the loss of a loved one check out the Mental health Foundation's guide around suicide bereavement or Skylight offers a grief education programme for people bereaved by suicide.
Because of its harmful content, during the writing of this blog, NZ authorities have recently classified 13 Reasons Why to an RP18. This means anyone under the age of 18 can only view the series with a parent or guardian – which we fully support.
If your young ones, friends or family want to watch it, be prepared to talk about the issue of suicide in a safe way, especially if you are a parent. You can watch our 4 minute ‘BRAVE’ video to help prepare, with messages from young people on how to deal with the situation of discussing suicide with them in a non-judgmental way. To be even more equipped we’ve developed free FLO Talanoa education workshops for Maori and Pasifika communities. Further training for all New Zealanders will be available soon.
It’s important to instil a sense of hope for suicidal people. We know that for people with thoughts of suicide, hearing stories of people that have survived a suicide attempt, focussing on reasons for living, can help change their mind and save their life. That’s why we produced these short Healing Stories that give hope to our most vulnerable and our 'Top 5 tactics' - Josiah Tuamali'i has eloquently shared how he used our 'Top 5 Tactics' to navigate his journey. You can also download our ‘Help Give Hope’ pamphlet with more helpful info to prepare you.
Experts in the field such as CASA and the Mental Health Foundation have also given sound advice with concurring views about 13 Reasons Why. All would agree that we must ‘at least do no harm’ to people through media portrayals of suicide, and in this case the series has failed.
Where to get help:
- Depression Helpline 0800 111 757 - When you're feeling down and would like to talk to a trained counsellor.
- Healthline 0800 611 116 - If you're feeling unwell, sick or need advice.
- Samaritans 0800 726 666 - For callers from the lower North Island, Christchurch and West Coast. For callers from all other regions phone (04) 473 9739.
- Youthline 0800 376 633 - Free text 234 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
- What's Up 0800 942 8787 - For 5-18 year olds; 1pm to 11pm.
- Kidsline 0800 54 37 54 (0800 KIDSLINE) - For children up to 14 years of age; 4pm to 6pm weekdays.
- OUTLine NZ 0800 688 5463 (0800 OUTLINE) - Support for sexuality or gender identity issues.